It seems like nobody wants to admit that they are introverted.
Introversion is often paired to a lack of confidence or even unambitious or antisocial behavior. A notion that stems from the understand that accumulating more is positive. If you’re extroverted you’ll be more ‘out there’, and therefore, faster to accumulate attention, things, status, friends, admirers, and ultimately more opportunity.
I believe in abundance. I believe there’s enough for everyone and everyone is enough. I also believe in quality over quantity. This obsession with having more isn’t a result of humans adapting to take care of their needs. It’s a result of human needs being manipulated. This deficiency mentality is designed to drive production and Capitalism at the expense of human tenderness.
Here are some points I want to push forward:
1. You can have whatever you want by being yourself.
2. Contrary to popular belief, introverts may gain more fulfillment because they are inclined to look inwards, rather than depending on others for assurance.
In no way do I think that introversion is better than extroversion. I believe the two need to be present in anybody’s life to have balance. I do, however, want to highlight the benefits of introversion and why we should stop trying to push it away.
How to embrace Introversion in a world that says it’s wrong
Know when to listen to that niggling voice and when to quieten it.
I used to give myself shit for not wanting to do things that my intuition simply said ‘no’ to. Ignoring your inner voice only deepens alienation. You may conceive that pushing yourself to be more like others is going to somehow compensate and make you acquire more of the things that you want in life. But you only extend the gap between yourself and the things you want.
- Spend some time in meditation. Start with 10 minutes every morning. This will help you identify disruptive thoughts.
- If something makes you feel uncomfortable and your first reaction is no, then don’t do it and don’t overthink it. I’m not saying don’t step out of your comfort zone, just do it on your own terms, not out of panic or deficiency mentality.
Fully embrace and take care of yourself in order to be close to others. Nourish yourself with the time, comfort and love you deserve, before you try to extend this gift to anybody else. After all, people will treat you how you treat yourself.
Once you take care of your needs, you’re no longer fighting against the tide. When you listen to the natural wants of your body, you recharge its energy. Feeling sociable and interested in others will then come naturally; without having to overthink what questions to ask, or how to look concerned or interested.
Remember, it’s never selfish to take care of yourself.
To all introverts and extroverts who need to introvert at times, do so with clarity strength and enthusiasm. There’s nothing more replenishing like a little bit of you time.